Paradigms power perception and perceptions power emotions. Most emotions are responses to perception----what you think is true about a given situation. If your perception is false, then you emotional response to it will be false too. So check you perceptions, and beyond that check the truthfulness of your paradigms---what you believe. Just because you believe something firmly doesn't make it true. Be willing to reexamine what you believe. The more you live in the truth, the more your emotions will help you see clearly. But even then, you don't want to trust them more than me".

Sarayu to Mackenzie-The Shack p. 127 William P. Young